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Whats the trope??

I weirdly don’t want to say until I write it lol while people won’t get UPSET, I think it’s a trope that people sometimes have more issues with than like hardcore kinks (maybe this is just my impression).

So as much as I’d love to get prompts for it, I probably won’t say publicly until I post it (and I’ll put a warning tag on it lol).

Helllooo! I’m quite new to the Reylo fandom and am slowly navigating my way around the amazing fics you have here. Are there are any like ‘super standout’ fics that you think are a *must* read for being in this fandom?

I’m interpreting this as fics that probably get talked about/referenced a lot, so here ya go! Also if you’re new, please definitely check out my Reylo FAQ. I don’t talk about it much, but it IS very helpful I think =)

It gets recommended a lot, but for very good reason, but Interstellar Transmissions by @ricca-raccoon and lovelythings is mandatory to be quite honest. It was one of the first big fanfics immediately after TFA, and it still to this day is iconic and basically a TLJ primer lol

Forms by @avenrue would be another one – it popped up literally 3 days after release of TFA and I remember gleefully dying all the way through January with it.

The Conviction of Things Not Seen is another early one that goes through the ‘what if’ of Ben Solo coming back to the Resistance. I don’t know if  you’ll see it talked about a lot, but it counts as a stand out IMO.

The Moon, The Sun, and the Star Inbetween is another one thats pretty legendary/standout. Stays true to the dynamic of Reylo while throwing a kid into the mix 😉

Like Young Gods by Disasterisms is PADAWAN BEN SOLO GOODNESS.

IDK..there’s so many, I would just start there as they’re all AUs and I feel like that’s a good primer for fandom. Read my FAQ and it has others and my ff-rec tag =) Enjoy!

What’s your take on what Rian said, Like I’m glad he explained that Kylo wasn’t trying to manipulate Rey but at the same time he was being manipulative with the way he said things. How do you see it??

This is the full quote I’ll address, for people who haven’t seen it:

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I feel like Rian pretty much covered all of it in plain terms – that what Kylo is saying is coming from a place of love, of honesty, a very ‘naked, open emotional appeal’ – he needs her to stay with him, be with him – he is in LOVE with her. But the way he goes about it – the ‘botched proposal’ is terrible – we’ve all said this, we’re all on board with that. He doesn’t MEAN for it to be terrible or manipulative and that is all we need to know really.

Kylo, unintentionally, was using Rey’s need to belong and not be alone, to have a purpose – to get her to stay with him. It is absolutely NO surprise that Kylo wouldn’t have thought twice about how he said these things – he has no healthy social experience. He’s been manipulated since birth, his parents aren’t exactly picturesque for healthy relationships, and his uncle tried to murder him. 

He’s ALWAYS been honest with Rey, and in this scene it’s no different – whether he’s inadvertently manipulating her emotions to get what he wants is almost irrelevant to Reylo. Because we KNOW it’s wrong – that’s why she doesn’t accept it – we see that as the audience, Kylo only sees this open and honest appeal to her as being brutally rejected, though. Which makes it a heartbreaking game of misunderstanding.

It’s NOT a chess game, Kylo isn’t a mastermind – he knows one thing: that he loves Rey, he WANTS her by his side desperately. And he says what he says because he’s a total doofus and doesn’t realize how it comes across – that what he’s doing/saying is WRONG, even if his intention is so pure.

So really, whether it’s a manipulation or not is irrelevant because we know two things:

1) Kylo wasn’t doing it intentionally – it is not a chess game to him.
2) Rey wasn’t manipulated and made the ‘right’ choice.

I know this is a blog about Star Wars, but I’ve been feeling down lately and felt like I need to turn to anyone. I’m a college student and I feel so lost in my life right now and I don’t know what to do with anything anymore. I had everything set for myself but then I realized that wasn’t what I really wanted. And now I feel like if I do pursue what I want I’ll hate it or I’ll just fail at it. This must be so depressing, I’m sorry about this.

It’s all okay, sometimes you just need to connect – I won’t get too deeply personal but let me just say that it’s really not the end of the world if you choose something that you realize you don’t like in 5-10 years.

Like sure, maybe if you spend 10 years becoming a doctor and then realize you don’t want to do that it might be a bit rough to realize you spent all those years (money more like) with it – but you can always change careers.

When  you’re young in particular, most people aren’t super sure about what they want. That’s just adolescence and young adult life really – sometimes you have to push through the doubt, and sometimes you have to really evaluate it.

For me, I got a degree AND a masters in a career that I’ve not worked in for 4 years. I was happy-ish with the career, but honestly I’m only now realizing at 30 that it was a path I never really wanted or evaluated. And that’s okay. I took a leap and changed careers entirely – my college degrees are still VALUABLE, maybe not directly, but the stuff I learned and the fact that I have them carries a lot of weight in any field. Is it kind of annoying paying student loans for a masters degree I wish I had never gotten? Yes, totally, but that’s just life sometimes – it’s not worth staying in a career I didn’t like, didn’t make me happy.

So anyway what that boils down to is – if you pursue what you had set for yourself, remember that you DID set out on it for a reason, but also that it’s OKAY if you end up hating it and need to change paths. It might not be easy, but it’s doable. And if you fail – well, ‘the greatest teacher, failure is’ 😉 You might fail, and then get better and come back stronger, if you really want it.