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What’s your take on what Rian said, Like I’m glad he explained that Kylo wasn’t trying to manipulate Rey but at the same time he was being manipulative with the way he said things. How do you see it??

This is the full quote I’ll address, for people who haven’t seen it:

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I feel like Rian pretty much covered all of it in plain terms – that what Kylo is saying is coming from a place of love, of honesty, a very ‘naked, open emotional appeal’ – he needs her to stay with him, be with him – he is in LOVE with her. But the way he goes about it – the ‘botched proposal’ is terrible – we’ve all said this, we’re all on board with that. He doesn’t MEAN for it to be terrible or manipulative and that is all we need to know really.

Kylo, unintentionally, was using Rey’s need to belong and not be alone, to have a purpose – to get her to stay with him. It is absolutely NO surprise that Kylo wouldn’t have thought twice about how he said these things – he has no healthy social experience. He’s been manipulated since birth, his parents aren’t exactly picturesque for healthy relationships, and his uncle tried to murder him. 

He’s ALWAYS been honest with Rey, and in this scene it’s no different – whether he’s inadvertently manipulating her emotions to get what he wants is almost irrelevant to Reylo. Because we KNOW it’s wrong – that’s why she doesn’t accept it – we see that as the audience, Kylo only sees this open and honest appeal to her as being brutally rejected, though. Which makes it a heartbreaking game of misunderstanding.

It’s NOT a chess game, Kylo isn’t a mastermind – he knows one thing: that he loves Rey, he WANTS her by his side desperately. And he says what he says because he’s a total doofus and doesn’t realize how it comes across – that what he’s doing/saying is WRONG, even if his intention is so pure.

So really, whether it’s a manipulation or not is irrelevant because we know two things:

1) Kylo wasn’t doing it intentionally – it is not a chess game to him.
2) Rey wasn’t manipulated and made the ‘right’ choice.

As a fellow Reylo enthusiast, my friend and I have a Reylo RP, and we discussed songs to help us write a smut scene (because songs give us inspiration, lmao). What songs would you recommend to listen to while writing Reylo smut?

EDIT: wow this cut off the first part of my answer lmao anyway I just said I don’t really listen to music while writing, only to get in the emotional tone and mindset of the stuff I’m writing initially.

And I don’t really listen to anything specifically for smut, but I would definitely suggest:

and the granddaddy of them all,

I know this is a blog about Star Wars, but I’ve been feeling down lately and felt like I need to turn to anyone. I’m a college student and I feel so lost in my life right now and I don’t know what to do with anything anymore. I had everything set for myself but then I realized that wasn’t what I really wanted. And now I feel like if I do pursue what I want I’ll hate it or I’ll just fail at it. This must be so depressing, I’m sorry about this.

It’s all okay, sometimes you just need to connect – I won’t get too deeply personal but let me just say that it’s really not the end of the world if you choose something that you realize you don’t like in 5-10 years.

Like sure, maybe if you spend 10 years becoming a doctor and then realize you don’t want to do that it might be a bit rough to realize you spent all those years (money more like) with it – but you can always change careers.

When  you’re young in particular, most people aren’t super sure about what they want. That’s just adolescence and young adult life really – sometimes you have to push through the doubt, and sometimes you have to really evaluate it.

For me, I got a degree AND a masters in a career that I’ve not worked in for 4 years. I was happy-ish with the career, but honestly I’m only now realizing at 30 that it was a path I never really wanted or evaluated. And that’s okay. I took a leap and changed careers entirely – my college degrees are still VALUABLE, maybe not directly, but the stuff I learned and the fact that I have them carries a lot of weight in any field. Is it kind of annoying paying student loans for a masters degree I wish I had never gotten? Yes, totally, but that’s just life sometimes – it’s not worth staying in a career I didn’t like, didn’t make me happy.

So anyway what that boils down to is – if you pursue what you had set for yourself, remember that you DID set out on it for a reason, but also that it’s OKAY if you end up hating it and need to change paths. It might not be easy, but it’s doable. And if you fail – well, ‘the greatest teacher, failure is’ 😉 You might fail, and then get better and come back stronger, if you really want it.

I really love Adam Driver in Star Wars and I’ve seen bits and pieces of his other work. But my question is, do you think he’s a person fond of his fans? This is in no way hating I just sometimes see his expressions and feel like he just hates the whole world lol

I think he’s just a person who loves his craft and gets really nervous around crowds of any size, much less people who are fans. And I think he’s talked about before how he really appreciates fans, and the little things you notice about people and how your roles affect them (Specifically star wars) – he’s just more of a people watcher than anything else. And you can’t really people watch if you’re really out there publicly and open – he’s said that before. 

And he’s said a lot about how he just has so much anger inside of him, that’s why he channels a lot of it into his work – and why he founded AITAF, because acting helped that so much and if anyone needs more emotional support it’s our soldiers. People never really get over emotional issues, they just learn to cope with them better.

I don’t want to say he’s morose or cynical – because I feel like it’s far from that, but he DOES make jokes sometimes that kind of make you feel like he gets more sad about stuff than you would ever know. The interview where he’s like ‘I don’t have parties because I think the world is a sad place’ or whatever lol

But ultimately we’re never going to know, because again as he said he deliberately keeps himself private and by defacto mysterious – because he wants to be judged and appreciated by what he creates, rather than who he is as a person. And I love him so much for that.